Good morning readers!
My brother posted this on Facebook, “22 Things Happy People Do Differently,” and I was intrigued of course, because I had to find out whether or not I’m happy, and it turns out, that I am (for the most part). So I’ve posted it here, with my response to each thing that “happy” people do.
Ready? Here we go….
There are two types of people in the world: those who choose to be happy, and those who choose to be unhappy. Contrary to popular belief, happiness doesn’t come from fame, fortune, other people, or material possessions. Rather, it comes from within. The richest person in the world could be miserable while a homeless person could be right outside, smiling and content with their life. Happy people are happy because they make themselves happy. They maintain a positive outlook on life and remain at peace with themselves.
The question is: how do they do that?
It’s quite simple. Happy people have good habits that enhance their lives. They do things differently. Ask any happy person, and they will tell you that they …
1. Don’t hold grudges.
Happy people understand that it’s better to forgive and forget than to let their negative feelings crowd out their positive feelings. Holding a grudge has a lot of detrimental effects on your well-being, including increased depression, anxiety, and stress. Why let anyone who has wronged you have power over you? If you let go of all your grudges, you’ll gain a clear conscience and enough energy to enjoy the good things in life.
My response: Okay, maybe I’m not happy or maybe I am. This one is confusing for me because I’ll forgive someone who’s stupid enough to do something to me that’s grudge-worthy, but I do NOT forget how stupid they are. And stupid people make me less happy.
2. Treat everyone with kindness.
Did you know that it has been scientifically proven that being kind makes you happier? Every time you perform a selfless act, your brain produces serotonin, a hormone that eases tension and lifts your spirits. Not only that, but treating people with love, dignity, and respect also allows you to build stronger relationships.
My response: I try to do this. My problem is that so many other people don’t do this, that it makes me hate them. So does that make me less happy?
3. See problems as challenges.
The word “problem” is never part of a happy person’s vocabulary. A problem is viewed as a drawback, a struggle, or an unstable situation while a challenge is viewed as something positive like an opportunity, a task, or a dare. Whenever you face an obstacle, try looking at it as a challenge.
My response: Jay Z must not be happy. He has 99 problems, not 99 challenges.
4. Express gratitude for what they already have.
There’s a popular saying that goes something like this: “The happiest people don’t have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything they have.” You will have a deeper sense of contentment if you count your blessings instead of yearning for what you don’t have.
My response: FORCE yourself to do this…it helps! Granted, sometimes I have to think of starving people in third world countries with flies all over them and living in dirt to keep things in perspective, but hey, whatever it takes.
5. Dream big.
People who get into the habit of dreaming big are more likely to accomplish their goals than those who don’t. If you dare to dream big, your mind will put itself in a focused and positive state.
My response: Yeah.
6. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
Happy people ask themselves, “Will this problem matter a year from now?” They understand that life’s too short to get worked up over trivial situations. Letting things roll off your back will definitely put you at ease to enjoy the more important things in life.
My response: I don’t sweat the small stuff, but I sweat other people who do, which inhibits my happiness. People who get worked up over small things irritate the shit out of me. Isn’t that ironic?
7. Speak well of others.
Being nice feels better than being mean. As fun as gossiping is, it usually leaves you feeling guilty and resentful. Saying nice things about other people encourages you to think positive, non-judgmental thoughts.
My response: Do celebrities count? Non-judgmental thoughts? Okay, now I’m not sure if I’m happy or not.
8. Never make excuses.
Benjamin Franklin once said, “He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else.” Happy people don’t make excuses or blame others for their own failures in life. Instead, they own up to their mistakes and, by doing so, they proactively try to change for the better.
My response: Ben Franklin was smart. I think people with excuses are just disguising laziness.
9. Get absorbed into the present.
Happy people don’t dwell on the past or worry about the future. They savor the present. They let themselves get immersed in whatever they’re doing at the moment. Stop and smell the roses.
My response: Oh Christ. Easier said than done…but I try.
10. Wake up at the same time every morning.
Have you noticed that a lot of successful people tend to be early risers? Waking up at the same time every morning stabilizes your circadian rhythm, increases productivity, and puts you in a calm and centered state.
My response: I’m not sure about this one. I’m up at 6 am everyday and I can honestly say I’m not all that happy about that. However, I do think that getting up and having to go somewhere every day is good for people, whether you like it or not.
11. Avoid social comparison.
Everyone works at his own pace, so why compare yourself to others? If you think you’re better than someone else, you gain an unhealthy sense of superiority. If you think someone else is better than you, you end up feeling bad about yourself. You’ll be happier if you focus on your own progress and praise others on theirs.
My response: I don’t really do this because I don’t have that kind of time and I don’t really care.
12. Choose friends wisely.
Misery loves company. That’s why it’s important to surround yourself with optimistic people who will encourage you to achieve your goals. The more positive energy you have around you, the better you will feel about yourself.
My response: This I do. I keep my friends in categories. I know their limitations when it comes to friendship and I don’t spend a lot of time with people who don’t really know how to be good friends. My circle of real friends is very small.
13. Never seek approval from others.
Happy people don’t care what others think of them. They follow their own hearts without letting naysayers discourage them. They understand that it’s impossible to please everyone. Listen to what people have to say, but never seek anyone’s approval but your own.
My response: I think we all know this is not one of my “problems”…I mean challenges.
14. Take the time to listen.
Talk less; listen more. Listening keeps your mind open to others’ wisdom and outlooks on the world. The more intensely you listen, the quieter your mind gets, and the more content you feel.
My response: Does pretending to listen count? Sometimes I get diarrhea of the mouth too. Maybe I’m not happy.
15. Nurture social relationships.
A lonely person is a miserable person. Happy people understand how important it is to have strong, healthy relationships. Always take the time to see and talk to your family, friends, or significant other.
My response: I talk to my family a lot. I hang out with friends. And sometimes what makes me happy is being alone. This list is confusing me.
Meditating silences your mind and helps you find inner peace. You don’t have to be a zen master to pull it off. Happy people know how to silence their minds anywhere and anytime they need to calm their nerves.
My response: I really keep meaning to do this. I think I need to do this, but I forget to do this. Does forgetting to meditate drop me a couple of rungs on the happy ladder?
17. Eat well.
Junk food makes you sluggish, and it’s difficult to be happy when you’re in that kind of state. Everything you eat directly affects your body’s ability to produce hormones, which will dictate your moods, energy, and mental focus. Be sure to eat foods that will keep your mind and body in good shape.
My response: Junk food might make you sluggish but sometimes it makes you happy too. So yes, eat healthy, but sometimes eat Doritos.
Studies have shown that exercise raises happiness levels just as much as Zoloft does. Exercising also boosts your self-esteem and gives you a higher sense of self-accomplishment.
My response: Put the pills down, get off your ass, and go for a walk!
19. Live minimally.
Happy people rarely keep clutter around the house because they know that extra belongings weigh them down and make them feel overwhelmed and stressed out. Some studies have concluded that Europeans are a lot happier than Americans are, which is interesting because they live in smaller homes, drive simpler cars, and own fewer items.
My response: I hate clutter. Have you ever seen “Hoarders?”
20. Tell the truth.
Lying stresses you out, corrodes your self-esteem, and makes you unlikeable. The truth will set you free. Being honest improves your mental health and builds others’ trust in you. Always be truthful, and never apologize for it.
My response: We all know that if this makes you happy, then I’m very happy. 😀
21. Establish personal control.
Happy people have the ability to choose their own destinies. They don’t let others tell them how they should live their lives. Being in complete control of one’s own life brings positive feelings and a great sense of self-worth.
My response: Don’t tell me what to do, I’m happy doing what I want.
22. Accept what cannot be changed.
Once you accept the fact that life is not fair, you’ll be more at peace with yourself. Instead of obsessing over how unfair life is, just focus on what you can control and change it for the better.
My response: This is good. Acceptance is necessary and difficult sometimes, but I keep working at accepting that the world is full of assholes.
I actually think this article was really good and I wish there were more happy people in the world. The original writer of this article is Chiara Fucarino and here is a link to the original article: 22 Things Happy People Do Differently
I hope you’re all happy and having a happy day! And here is the theme song of the day:
P.S. We had a dog named “Happy”. My mom named him.